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Stop Playing Small

How to Reclaim Your Energy After Years of Playing Small

October 01, 20253 min read

Let’s be real.
For too long, you’ve been dimming your light just to make other people comfortable.
You’ve been biting your tongue so you wouldn’t offend.
You’ve been shrinking yourself so you’d fit into places you were never meant to belong in the first place.

And after years of doing this, you wake up drained.
Not because you don’t have energy — but because your energy has been scattered everywhere but yourself.

This is your wake-up call.
It’s time to reclaim what’s yours.
It’s time to stop playing small.


So why do we do it? Why do we shrink when we were made to expand?

Because somewhere along the way, you learned that being too much was dangerous.
That speaking your truth would cause rejection.
That shining too brightly would make people leave.

So you adapted. You learned how to play small, how to please, how to take up less space.
And for a while, it kept you safe.
But safety at the cost of your soul isn’t safety at all.
It’s self-abandonment.

And the longer you do it, the more you start forgetting who you really are.


Here’s the thing nobody tells you:
Playing small doesn’t just rob the world of your gifts.
It robs
you.

It robs you of joy.
It robs you of passion.
It robs you of alignment.

Because every time you say “yes” when you mean “no”… every time you smile when you want to cry… every time you stay silent when your soul is screaming… you chip away at your own energy.

No wonder you feel tired all the time.
No wonder you feel like your light is dim.
It’s not because you don’t have power.
It’s because you’ve been giving it away.


So how do you reclaim your energy after years of playing small?

First, you have to stop apologizing for existing.
You are not a burden. You are not “too much.” You are not wrong for being who you are.

Second, you set boundaries — real ones.
Not walls to keep love out, but gates that protect your peace.

Third, you start saying “no” without explaining yourself.
No is a full sentence.
You don’t need a three-paragraph essay to justify honoring yourself.

And most importantly, you have to believe that your light was never a mistake.
God didn’t give you your gifts, your voice, your presence, just for you to bury it under shame.


Here’s the truth:
When you reclaim your energy, people will notice.
Some will celebrate you. Others will resist it — because your light will expose where they’re still hiding in darkness.

And that’s okay.
You weren’t meant for everyone.
You weren’t created to be small enough to fit into everyone’s expectations.

You were created to shine.
To expand.
To walk in the fullness of who you are.

And yes, reclaiming your energy will mean losing some people. But the people you lose are the ones who benefitted from you playing small. Let them go.


So here’s your reminder:
You don’t have to apologize for your presence.
You don’t have to explain why you’re finally choosing yourself.
You don’t have to shrink just to make others feel big.

You are allowed to reclaim your energy.
You are allowed to rise again after years of dimming your light.
You are allowed to stop surviving and start shining.

Because the world doesn’t need the watered-down version of you.
It needs the real you.
The bold you.
The radiant you.

So stop playing small.
Reclaim what’s yours.
And watch how your life transforms when you finally stand in your power.

blog author image

GioLoveChange

Healing | Self-reflection | Growth Founder of: @thelovechange | 🦋 Follower of God, Student for Life

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Stop Playing Small

How to Reclaim Your Energy After Years of Playing Small

October 01, 20253 min read

Let’s be real.
For too long, you’ve been dimming your light just to make other people comfortable.
You’ve been biting your tongue so you wouldn’t offend.
You’ve been shrinking yourself so you’d fit into places you were never meant to belong in the first place.

And after years of doing this, you wake up drained.
Not because you don’t have energy — but because your energy has been scattered everywhere but yourself.

This is your wake-up call.
It’s time to reclaim what’s yours.
It’s time to stop playing small.


So why do we do it? Why do we shrink when we were made to expand?

Because somewhere along the way, you learned that being too much was dangerous.
That speaking your truth would cause rejection.
That shining too brightly would make people leave.

So you adapted. You learned how to play small, how to please, how to take up less space.
And for a while, it kept you safe.
But safety at the cost of your soul isn’t safety at all.
It’s self-abandonment.

And the longer you do it, the more you start forgetting who you really are.


Here’s the thing nobody tells you:
Playing small doesn’t just rob the world of your gifts.
It robs
you.

It robs you of joy.
It robs you of passion.
It robs you of alignment.

Because every time you say “yes” when you mean “no”… every time you smile when you want to cry… every time you stay silent when your soul is screaming… you chip away at your own energy.

No wonder you feel tired all the time.
No wonder you feel like your light is dim.
It’s not because you don’t have power.
It’s because you’ve been giving it away.


So how do you reclaim your energy after years of playing small?

First, you have to stop apologizing for existing.
You are not a burden. You are not “too much.” You are not wrong for being who you are.

Second, you set boundaries — real ones.
Not walls to keep love out, but gates that protect your peace.

Third, you start saying “no” without explaining yourself.
No is a full sentence.
You don’t need a three-paragraph essay to justify honoring yourself.

And most importantly, you have to believe that your light was never a mistake.
God didn’t give you your gifts, your voice, your presence, just for you to bury it under shame.


Here’s the truth:
When you reclaim your energy, people will notice.
Some will celebrate you. Others will resist it — because your light will expose where they’re still hiding in darkness.

And that’s okay.
You weren’t meant for everyone.
You weren’t created to be small enough to fit into everyone’s expectations.

You were created to shine.
To expand.
To walk in the fullness of who you are.

And yes, reclaiming your energy will mean losing some people. But the people you lose are the ones who benefitted from you playing small. Let them go.


So here’s your reminder:
You don’t have to apologize for your presence.
You don’t have to explain why you’re finally choosing yourself.
You don’t have to shrink just to make others feel big.

You are allowed to reclaim your energy.
You are allowed to rise again after years of dimming your light.
You are allowed to stop surviving and start shining.

Because the world doesn’t need the watered-down version of you.
It needs the real you.
The bold you.
The radiant you.

So stop playing small.
Reclaim what’s yours.
And watch how your life transforms when you finally stand in your power.

blog author image

GioLoveChange

Healing | Self-reflection | Growth Founder of: @thelovechange | 🦋 Follower of God, Student for Life

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